My Soul Ain't For Sale! Is Reality TV The Reality We Need?

I have been behooved and taken back by these women, young ladies that have placed themselves on purpose in precarious situations! I tire of seeing it on TV, reading it in gossip columns, the news on various reputable search engines like Yahoo, MSN. Facebook and blogs. This has nothing to do with age, age is nothing but a number because now we see and read women that are of mature age are making pure spectacles of themselves all for a dollar! What examples are we setting for the little girls in the world? Teenage girls that are very impressionable and follow these women and young women on social media? What happen to teaching and setting the role as a mother to her children. Going to college, starting your own business, being a good wife? Not a slut, hoar, sloring, taking pictures of your body parts and placing them on and in social media so that you can to get attention.

We sit back and watch and read about the cat fights, arguments, sex lives, cursing and pure disrespect. How these women let their lives play out for the world to see. Staying in abusive relationships with men and women. Dragging themselves in the mud being ridiculed by society. Later on posting on their fan pages, Twitter and Instagram profiles how they are not worried. Voicing their pain, throwing vulgar statements to those who have hurt them.

Be a living example! I am not asking for perfection because there is not one person that is perfect because we all have flaws. But these women bask in telling their private business! They go on radio and talk shows expressing their vehement for so many. How did we get here? How do we keep throwing dirt and shade on others? How do we become haters? How do we feel so at ease to let the world know what and who we are doing it with? This just so happens to be the new norm! What happened to women uplifting and encouraging one another? Those days seemed to be long gone! The reality is that reality TV is the new reality and everyone wants to view it and a piece of it. I cannot keep up with the many reality shows that have been on TV and are on TV today.

Trash talking, fighting, mudslinging, using profane language to express ones feelings, disrespect, low self-esteem seems to be the rage these days. Reality TV is nothing but soap operas, notice that many of the soap operas are now off the air. However, why do we need them? We have reality TV! These people open up their lives and show the world, those who watch what they do, when they do what they do and how they do it! It is so sad that those who were simply “regular” people now have budgenning careers just from acting an azz on TV! The perfect platform for these people to write books, start business', get a singing career, acting career, travel. They are now asked to promote other products because their rise to fame, and now they get paid for it! Now I am no hater! Get your money and make your coin. But was it worth it? When you go back in time after all the hoo rah is is over will you have regrets? What about the embarrassment you cause yourself and your family? All the new leeches that now have attached themselves to your new celebrity. Some of these women and men have children! What type of example is one setting?

Your name, your reputation is very important! When someone types in your name, or remembers you from the show you starred in. They are not going to remember the positive, they are going to remember the negative! How many positive reality shows are there on TV? Take your time, don't worry I will wait! Clock ticking....

Let me be straight forward, we could allll do a reality show of our lives. The many arguments, break-ups, family dissension, sexual conquest of our lives. But is it necessary to put it out there? Then we have all the radio stations, bloggers, gossip columnist and talk shows adding to the fame. Do we see real movie stars, singers and celebrities placing themselves in the limelight? No! They want to stay as far away as they can from people knowing their personal and private business. But now you have these attention seekers, a deep need to be seen and heard. So sad. If you follow these “reality stars” on any social media platform you will read all the many negative comments that are left on their profile. Placing yourself in such a precarious situation such as letting people know who you are and what you do places you in a different arena now. Who wants to really, for real be known as a hoar, a thot, a cheater, slut? I guess how one is betrayed and looked upon is not of importance anymore.

There are no examples, no real examples on these shows. We are bombarded and placated with messy BS that is not worth us being involved with on TV. But we watch it, these are high rated shows because of the trash talking and mudslinging. It seems to be okay going to jail, getting pregnant, having babies, being cheated on, being verbally abused and put down by friends or a significant other. Now we have children, teenagers, young adults looking at these reality TV stars and pattering their lives after theirs.

We fight for equality, for respect, we fight for life! Now it is all demeaned and thrown to the waist side because of what we see on TV. How do we advocate for so many things in this world and yet when we turn on our TV and see all of this shade and buffoonery we now have to fight against all of that? It seems we promote lust, lies, fighting and misguided thoughts because it is the in thing to do. So now you have to go to your child and tell them this is not the right path to go down. How in this day and age can one cover their child from things that are displayed openly and known openly?

What legacy are you leaving? That is was cool to walk around half naked? To commit adultery, to sleep around and make porn tapes? How much did you get paid? Is it, was it all worth it in the end? Why Compromise Your Soul? ( a shameless plug of my new book sold on Amazon and Barnes and Nobel) But this is what you are doing! I would be damned if my children, family and grandchildren see me on TV degrading myself to a low point. I am judged daily I am sure from the way I talk, dress and act. But I will be damned if my legacy or good name will be ruined by some junk TV that is making more money off of me than I will ever see! Once you ruin your name, that is a wrap! It is hard to come back from all the public shame! Some do, and I give credit to where credit is due. They learn in the end that none of it was worth hit. They take that platform that was placated with negative out-sight and express how and why it was wrong. The anger they felt, speaking on their past life. But when you say something positive, do something positive, we can turn our TV on and see you act a complete idiot still!

Toy High