GIVING PITY TO THE TIRED AND PITIFUL!

We all do some things in life that we are truly ashamed of.  There are also some things that we will say and do that can come up and choke us in our future.  However, I have decided to do this Speak On It!! To those who get stuck in the rut and still ask for help, still ask for pity and DO NOT even pity their own situation and remove themselves from it!

I grew up in a home with a father who was abusive mentally, verbally and physically.  My father was an abusive man mostly towards my mother.  He said slanderous things to hurt me and there were a couple of physical confrontations when I got much older.  I said to myself that I would NEVER succumb to such cruelty by a man!  That leads me to here….

I absolutely have and hold a great empathy towards women who are in any form of abuse!  It is not good on a woman’s esteem, and neither on their mental nor emotional stability.  However a woman has to know that she is worthy of much more in life; and not a miserable life that she has to come to terms with that within herself.  Each person’s “tired” is different from all of ours.  We are unique and have our own idiosyncrasies.  We each have a different tolerance level.  I get this, I know this I understand this.  However there indeed has to come a time in one’s life (a woman’s) where she has to say ENOUGH!!!!

See I do feel or have any compassion for a woman who vents constantly of a man beating her and abusing her and will not leave.  I am only speaking of the women that have endured abuse and have what I will call “allies” these allies play the EMT role! Every time called they run to the rescue and save the day! A few days at the EMT’s house and the call comes through of “I’m sorry” and they go back and keep repeating the same thing over and over. Some women do this for years!  I have no compassion because it is apparent that they have a support team.  YOU CANNOT MAKE A PERSON LOVE THEMSELF!

I went on a tangum about physical abuse; however this is not the exact blog of the day.  I just wanted to get your attention!  So I did!  Before I move on I will tell you that I am not mean spirited and have no compassion.  Because I truly do, because it hurts and rocks my inner core for women to be abused in any form.

I am sure we all know someone, or maybe experienced it ourselves.  Of those who go through the same thing over and over.  Some who seemed to have what Teddy Pendergrass sang, “You got bad luuuuck! That’s what cha got!” Some seem to always be in the middle of some calamity.  It is never their fault!  It is always someone to blame.  These people I cannot, real not have any empathy for.  I see them on gossip sights, in my life!  On Reality TV (when I watch TV) in movies and real life situations of those around me.  These people throw the best “pity” parties ever!  Some of them are the reasons for all the mad hatter mess they dwell in!  A pool of vomit!  Because I do not have a lot of people in my cipher (I have chosen it this way) I have noticed that these people who have emotional breakdowns, pity parties, bouts of depression and mad temperament issues are because they CANNOT see the light.  Some see the light but have an issue walking through it because that means clearly they will see themselves.  Trust they do!  They just feel better blaming other’s and things before themselves.

The man/woman that has been in a worthless relationship for years and the problems that have been spoken on over and over have never received a remedy.  The problems have persisted and the unhappiness in the relationship has gone way beyond “feeling sorry for” You stay!  And why?  Why do you stay?  For some it has been they don’t want to be alone (but will cheat) being fully responsible financially, or they are simply users.  What need is there to stay in anything toxic?  You know the more you stay in toxic relationships the more toxic you become!  You have luggage, baggage, walls, gaps and mad bridges!

What about the woman/man that has used and has been so selfish in life?  The ones that have used looks, sex and illegal things in order to have financial gain.  These have and will do so much for the “come up” they have made tons of enemies!  People have nothing good to say about them.  They have done so much harm that when they get in trouble they have no one to talk to.  No one will help them! Now they have to find ways to get money and do things that they are very tired of doing. Placing themselves deeper into the cest pool of life.  They drown and choke in their vomit! I do not pity these pitiful people!

I have no pity for those who will not build themselves up.  Who are weak and need constant help and far removed from growing!  They need constant help and encouragement and they need to keep running into brick walls.  Doing the same dance, same song all the time! These sorts always seem to beg for the attention and it is never ever them!  ‘

Women/men get cheated on all the time.  Couples that are in long relationships that cheat.  Rather than be the male or female to leave and pursue a better life.  The problems and the issues don’t clear up.  They have both gotten very comfortable.  You cannot come to me and complain constantly of how your situation is! You help to create it!  Your eyes have been open!  So you change, because change has not come yet from the other individual.  Get your life!

In this economy that we are all living in today it requires some soldiers!  We have to be stronger now more than ever! I am not saying one should not vent, cry, have a bad day, and get depressed over the current circumstances.  But how much pity and compassion can one show to another individual who has the same drama and circumstances all the time?!  For someone who has to be consistently picked up over and over from seeds they have sewn.  For not realizing they are the cause to their own demise. 

I know what some could be saying, but at this point I could care less!  I am a person who has been around soldiers and babies. The soldiers inspire me and the babies turn me off!  Those who fear moving forward and are stagnant in life have no encouragement or kind words of upliftment to offer because they are in an emotional crisis.  But we all have to take some form of responsibility not to WEAR out the ones that we cherish with the same buffoonery over and over again! 

How many times does a friend or family member have to sit us down and talk to us to tell us to move on?  When are we going to change our own situations? Why do we bombard our fam and friends with the same rhetoric?  I am tired and way past tired to see so many who want so much compassion and help and leech off of the good energy others have to weigh them down with their burdens.  I am angry that TV has misrepresented abusive situations.  How we tend to believe what we see.  That if we just hang on in there things will get better.  This is an era where you have to love self first and get your ACT together because the ones who complain and seek to suck all of your energy like a vampire are the ones that will continue to stay at the bottom of the barrel with the rest of the sticky icky crap and bring you down mentally and emotionally with their constant need for pitying.

Toy High