SPEAK ON IT!!! WHY ARE PARENTS OUTING THEIR CHILDREN ON SOCIAL MEDIA? IS THIS THE NEW CRAZE OF DISCIPLINE? TECHNOLOGY...IS IT A GOOD THING OR BAD THING????

I am a bit peeved and perturbed at this moment. For the record because I am a writer and my business MP Ent. ( Malicious Pleasure Entertainment) I use social media for many of my promotions and marketing tools. Of course as we a plethora of companies, business' as well as personal are on Facebook. That there are many people that post the craziest things, (age does not have a thing to do with it) on Facebook. Twitter, Buzzfeed, Tumblr and Google+. Joke videos, pranks, home videos, children videos and so on. The memes we see, positive, negatie and funny messages and so on. However, the home videos from ones cell phones of parents disciplining their children and putting the video on Facebook to embarrass them to set them “straight” and on a path of so-called righteousness.

I happened to watch the new show TD Jake's and the parents that were on the show were explaining how they had caught their child doing something shameful on Facebook, school, away being “grown” with their friends. One man was on the show because he made a video of his daughter holding up a sign saying that she stole. She was standing and holding the sign in front of the business she had stole from. The father put the video on his Facebook page and the video went viral evvvvveeerywhere! It caught so much attention negative and positive! When he explained why he did it. He simply sated that he had been to prison. This was his only child, and he loved his daughter very much and did not want her to get close to doing bad things. Going to jail, because it is not a good place to be. He also stated that she has been on the straight and narrow since then.

I inner stood his logic. It made all perfect sense. When I saw the video on my timeline I understood his point of view. There was also a lady on the show that didn't know her daughter had a Facebook account and that she had taken pictures of herself in “sexy” underwear and posted them. She stated that her daughter had blocked her. However it was a friend of hers that had told her that she had a Facebook account. The mother had band her from Facebook. The daughter would go over to her friends to use the computer to log on. Of course the mother was livid when she saw the pics and the comments she was getting. The mom made a video revealing the daughters age. Which was fourteen! She had posted that she was eighteen on her account! With her daughter now on video crying stating her real age. That she still watched the Disney Channel and that she wore “regular” underwear that stated the days of the week and more. The mother said she that she had been molested and spoke on the many pedophiles in the world. How she had gotten pregnant at an early age and lived a life that was not good from being wild and loose and did not want her daughter to go down the same path she had gone. She had said, just as the father had. That she had loved her daughter very much! I got it! I get it. I assume now that it is because it is illegal to spank a child and you can go to jail for “abuse” and have your child taken away. This is the new discipline.

However, I must say that I have seen some videos that have gone viral that were too much for the internet. Or what I use at times, “Too much for colored TV” There also was a man on the show that totally disagreed with this form of discipline. He made a fake video of himself and son just to show the WWW that this was wrong. Of course the son did not know what was happening. But he was to cut all the hair of his sons hair off. When the son fell out crying, he stopped and then broke it down how bad this was for the child. Again I get it! I also agree that some things we have down and do are taken way tooooo far! Some of these videos I have come across with parent and children are overwhelming and over the top. The profane language that is overly abusive, the scare tactics, the humiliation of the child is just too much!

The one video I saw was of a mom that had come in to the bathroom and spoke of how nasty and filthy her daughter was. How she didn't bathe, wash her hair. How she wore extensions in her hair to look cute. And she din't buy new hair, how bad the hai smelled, she didn't washher hir either. How she didn't clean her room, how she wore sanitary pads because she urinated on herself. She even showed them on the floor in the bathroom! She humiliated not only herself, but her daughter more than she should! The daughter was obviously embarrassed and weeping! Her daughter kept trying to cover her face. But the mother had kept pulling her hand and arm back. She was about to hit her daughter and threatened hitting her if she put her hand back over her face.

I was disgusted and hurt and felt so embarrassed for the young girl. The mother had done this because she had flunked out of school and was getting bad grades. Her point was that she can be on Facebook all day and look “cute” and clean but she didn't translate that at school nor at home. The video was picked up by a young man that went to the same school. How I don't know. He wanted to embarrass the young girl, and of course thought it was hilarious! The school knew who posted the video and the young man was treated severely bad for these actions. Why would he do such a thing? He had humbly apologized for it. The young lady got support out of this world, people feeling bad for her more than teasing her of what her mother had done to her. Can one imagine the hurt, the deep and low self esteem and embarrassment on the 100^th level this young girl felt? I felt it for her!

I am not sure if this is a good thing nor a bad thing. I am leaning more to the bad because of the last incident that happened I wrote upon. Do we need to embarrass our children for them to walk a straight and narrow? Does a video need to get over 63 million views forever shared on the WWW to make a point? A video that has gone viral and will never go away to teach a lesson? A video that will always be a constant reminder of what someone has done five years ago? Ten years ago? A constant reminder of hurt, shame and embarrassment? I am not sure that this is a good thing.

If I had the medium when my daughters were young I would not use it at all! First and foremost I was graciously blessed with young girls that did not get into trouble. Didn't talk back, were obedient and great girls. I stayed on my daughters without having to spank them often. No they were not perfect! But they were good girls that I was sure to take a lot of time out with and I loved on them a lot. Not saying that these parents did or does not love their children. They did what they felt was the right thing to do in their case. For me it would have never been an option. I would also be embarrassing myself! Raising and rearing a child starts from a baby. Sounds crazy, but it does! Consistent and persistent knowing your child and being their for them. Of coarse children will be children and will do as much as they can possibly do to try and get away with things. I believe this has been every child born on this planet from the beginning of time.

We live in a time where technology is so advanced and he world is moving so fast that our children are caught up in the many evils of this world. Growing up faster than they should. Twelve year olds are now looking an acting as if they are sixteen. Some teenagers are looking as if they are in their early twenties. Three and four years olds are on their parents ipads, cell phones playing games and know more than they should. All these technical gadgets do assist our children, but yet they are evil because they allow our kids so much lee way into other things. How many parents are putting a guard and parental controls on the many laptops, computers and tablets and phones of these children? Children have cell phones at the age of ten. They can access the world wide web. They see things they shouldn't.

I have that oxymoron catch 22 theory. I love technology, but I loath what it has done to our society!