SPEAK ON IT!!! SELFISH IS AS SELFISH DOES! THE MAD RHETORIC RACE TO BE IN THE SPOTLIGHT!!

Let me start off by saying this, we are allll selfish! We all need and want! This is why so many are scrambling and promoting our companies and ourselves to get what we need from what we want and who we want it from. It seems to make it you have to do much to expose yourself and the company or your business. No matter what it is! Example before I start rambling because I feel I am on that road already! TV is not TV anymore! We live in the fake world of “reality TV”where drama, gossip and fighting seems to capture the viewers to tune in and watch. What does it do? It builds the brand of the production company, the show, the people in the show as well. Now these people are “celebrities”

Take a look at politics! Never ever have we seen a new zoo review played before us in regards to the presidential race for the next president. Never ever in my life have I seen such buffoonery and drama and pure acts of ignorance when it came to certain issues. Yes there is always mud slinging and throw your opponent under the bus. But its is like watching trash TV! To be Anne Frank it's like watching a WWF competition! SMH! Very hard! But look at what it has done.... it has made many people in the media tune it to the archaic rhetoric that is being displayed before our very own eyes! This is more than a damn circus! To be totally honest, I really do not know what to call it because it is an utter display of silliness and sadness!

It is now a joke! People who have fame and a certain celebrity are now being chosen to do ad campaigns of various products and endorsements. I recalled when this was for reputable people. Now we choose the dramatic people, or reality celebrities because they now have notoriety! I recall when certain celebrities and stars had to uphold a certain reputation. If they did not they were stripped away from those endorsements.

Because of the business I own and run. I find that people want to hustle me and utilize my skills to get the big pay date. However they do not want to pay! I am now heading over to the other side of the coin. I apologize, LOL let me be clear! They want the fame, notoriety, the booming business and don't want to pay you for your hard work! When a person is asking for a $3,000 job and want to pay you $300 for you time and over exerted efforts! Does this make sense to you? If I were a famous individual that had a celeb clientele people would flock to me. I get it! But you can't expect to get a five star meal nor service by going to Mc Donald's! I do not care how nice the Mc Donald's is nor the area it is in. It serves and sells fast food. If you want a service, a job to be done then you have to pay for that service or job. That is short dog money gets you just that! So you can't want champagne!

The selfishness in all of this is wanting to be noticed! Wanting to call the shots and have that “look at me” “look at what I can do” and you need to give me and do for me like I want you to just so that I can be pushed to the forefront. You, and you will get what I give you because at the beginning and the end of the day it is not about you boo! Where do they do that at?

When things do not go our way. We yell, pout, scream, pull tantrums and act a damn nut! We shut our loved ones out of our circle. We become stubborn and hard to deal with because we feeeeeel that you OWE us what we ask no matter what it is. You should give it up so kindly and be grateful you were chosen! I will admit I have these views and thoughts at and in various points of my life. However it is not related in trying to beat the next woman/man that is qualified for the job. I can sit back and let one run a mock. Not a big deal to me! I can side step and back out with no shame nor hesitation. It is called principals and pride. I am humble, but I am not foolish nor stupid!

When you are secure of who you are and what you do. You don't need a side show nor circus act! Your work, your ethics and the way you conduct yourself speaks in volumes. Sure it would be great if I had some reality TV star or celebrity speak on my business and books! I am sure that my following and likes would increase as well as my sales and profits. But what about those who don't have that? Has their business truly suffered? Their name? What they do? Have they been able to have a successful business and maintained their values and morals in a crazy sick economy? Some have! Some have grown! It's called tenacity! That is the type of selfish one should have! Not this fake plastic selfishness where I will do, say and act out to make a dollar. How long will it last? At some point and time the public real loose interest!

I read an article of a man from Britain that created an app to block out anything on the Kardashians! Isn't that something? He literally took the time and effort to create an app so that you don't have to be bombarded or overwhelmed with the media in regards to the Kardashians! He is sick of them and apparently has spoken to a lot of people who are sick of them as well. Now I am not hating on any of them! In fact I can honestly say I feel bombarded, and have been in the past few years because no matter what you pull up on the internet. Yahoo, MSN or any social media outlet that gives you information you will see some story on the Kardashians! Now I cannot front, I will be honest that Kris Jenner is a genius in how she has branded herself and the Kardashian/Jenner name! I don't agree that this family gets all this attention and has not one talent at all. What do they do? Don't worry I will wait! However if you can get a Kardashian to promote your product for your selfish needs and can pay the freight! More power to you! Pimping ain't easy, however I will say that Kris Jenner makes it look easy!

There is nothing wrong with being selfish, it has its place in certain arenas I will admit. But all gold is not good gold. To use someone for their abilities and not allow them to shine in assisting you to shine. To think of someone as being less than you are because you are who you are is not a good selfish either. At the end of the day, where does being superficial selfish get you? Nowhere! Because superficial gets old! Which is why this man from Britain created this app!

I love promotions, advertising and great marketing schemes. That is my business and what I do. However I will not take advantage of anyone's talents, love, hope, work nor ethics for my personal and private gain in the negative way. We all use people, we can't get anywhere without the help of others! Let me be super uber clear! It is indeed the way of the world. But you do not make a person wear seven hats and pay them ten dollars and hour! I could careless if you are are not a celebrity! It isn't fair, and it is not ethical. Though people and companies get away with it everywhere all over the world. I guarantee you will have a revolving door and will waste many man hours in training people to work a meaningless job because they are not being paid for their time and skills. All because you are being selfish! Not smart!

You may get a lot of attention by acting a total zip fool to get the attention of the media. But what respect you will you be given or earned because you did it all in the face of being selfish and wanting all the attention and didn't want to share or being so utterly selfish that we think we have the spotlight ONLY! There is more than one fast food restaurants in the world.  And yes at one time some went head to head in publicity and advertisements. However, the smart companies and people promote and advertise their services and selves without having to stoop to silly and subservient acts of selfishness to gain a following. Do you think Burger King is worried about Mc Donald's now? No! Why because though they may sell the same food. It is prepared differently. There are people who want charbroiled and not fried you know. Just as there are some followers who jump from person to person or company to company because of the trending. But when you are not trending are in the spotlight what is there to depend on? Why not be a leader and not a follower? Makes sense to me!

So what do we learn from personal growth and personal gain? When to be selfish and when to give? I may not have all the answers, but she does indeed have all the questions!

Toy High