SPEAK ON IT!!!! MY BODY MAY NOT BE THE BODY YOU LIKE BUT ALL THE ISHHHHH YOU TALKING....MOVE AROUND!!!

I am ova it!!!! Not proper grammar but it is how I indeed feel at this moment!  With Social media out and all of these celebs that are not making sure that they dip in the pool of tummy tuck, facial lifts, noses, eyes, cheek bones, boob fillers, lifters, adders, lipo, fat transfers, booty enhancersand hip enhancers and let's get our waist cinched too!  All these infamous folk are putting real women, ladies, old and young to "body shaming"  Know one looks original anymore.  All these damn additives!  Now I hear men say that "I wouldn't hit that!"  Whatever *side eye.  Because you would knowing that all of it is not her.  Puhhhleaaase!  I will not mention any names.  However, I'd recall a time where women of color were shamed for having full lips, hips and azz to go along with it.  Now it is in to not only tan to get color.  Noooooooo..... Your lips filled with collagen.  Noooooooo..... We need to have two big ole titties, azz, thighs and hips just like all those women of color have!!! Hmmmmm.... But yet women of color are America's most hated.  I can see why.... *side eye...the crae crae of this all is that now women of color are adding more booty, lips, boobs and are now under the knife more than ever!  In my super duper urban voice, "Where they do that at?"  *side eye and a smirk.   

How can a "regular" woman compete with a woman that has a man made body literally?  Stretch marks, cellulite, flanks, dark spots, scarring, imperfect things one can see is not attractive.  The men not all are getting more and more superficial and a lot of them that have the money will pay for their significant other to get the cuts sucks, lifts and transfers.  *more side eyes.  Look I am not against getting a little alteration.  If I could, Iwould get my boobs a cup smaller and lifted.  I sure would!  But.... let's be clear!  A lot of these reality stars, singers, rappers of allllll backgrounds from Shahs of Sunset to all the Hip Hop franchisees, Real Housewives franchise has had some major alterations!  It's more than obvious!  You can pull up or see footage from just a couple of years ago and see the significant changes!! So with young women, young girls and young ladies are now influenced by this and are getting under the knife to fix it!!! Because they feel, "If I look like that then all the men will want me too." Will they?  But in what way though?  Is it being sexually attractive to catch the men your number one priority?  Do you need the attention like that?   Maybe youdo...it or will it be wrong of the many men that come at you because of what they SEE hit you in your DM's about "hooking up" will now make you happy or  disappoint you.  I'm just saying.  Thee so-called IG models and FB, Twitter enhanced women and young ladies see the attention of many!! Men and women.  Let's not forget there are many teenagers and young women that follow these women on social media!  

Listen there are some men I am not attracted to.  This is so true.  But this public, social media, let me throw stones at you because you DO NOT fit the norm of what I am seeing of the women that are getting cut up and sucked up to attract my visuals. Well YOU don't look like them so now I have an issue with you.  I will publicly shame you on your social media accounts.  I will shame you and make you feel bad because you do not have the hair, shape, height, complexion, hips, lips and tits I like.  You are not attractive to me!! Really???? Is that nice??? I mean really.  I do not go around saying to the men that I am not visually nor physically attracted to and tell them.  "Ummmm, you are too dark, not in shape, lose some weight, fix your teeth, get your life  right before you come at me boo boo!"  Snapping fingers and rolling eyes with a mean side aye and walk off.  Not cool!  This is very crass and extremely rude!  Do you not think that at any point men/women are not aware of their shortcomings physically? That even the "dime piece"  women have insecurities about themselves?  That a lot of women that walk the earth are worrrrried about how men see them and will try just about anything to attract the opposite sex? Or whatever sex they are attracted to?   

Being utterly superficial is the new norm.  Being thick in all the right places is the new norm.  When at one time it was considered to be "overweight" Now it is the hottest thing. Ooohhhh!  Look at her!  She is thick in all the right places!  Let's be clear... there are a lot of women have stretch marks from being to big and getting small.  Or small and getting big.  Also women that did NOT have the luxury of having babies and not getting stretch marks.  There are a lot of women that have dark spots on their body and are not flawless and have the luxury of getting lazed off.  There are plenty of women that have cellulite in various areas of their bodies.  There are women that no matter how much weight they lose will still have a "flawed" body.  It looks good in clothes but when the clothes are off you see every flaw and unattractive detail that that woman sees in the mirror daily. She is concerned about it and how it will come across a man when she is with him in the nude.  I like to call these the "real women"  Because there is nothing that they can do to get rid of these precarious flaws.  No matter how much fade cream, cocoa butter and all of the many things that are sold over the counters to get rid of these flaws.  Some of these things work.  But are not going to remove all of it! 

Look women are extremely harsh on themselves.  Let it be known.  Rather they like to admit it or not.  For those of you that are not.  I applaud youthat you have never ever seen one flaw on your body. That you are as perfect as can be.  Well that was not for you.  Also there are some women that are harsh on other women and are cruel by saying negative things that hurt their feelings.  Body shaming,  just as these men are body shaming.  I am over it!  Completely!  If you don't like it, like her DO NOT body shame her!  Do you have any idea of the many young girls that are making themselves vomit, that are committing suicide because they are being body shamed?  The many depressed, oppressed, suppressed women and young girls that want to be accepted by others so they too can be labeled as "fine"  And yet..... and yet they are body shamed by comments and hateful verbiage that are left on their social media pages.   

Now let's talk about the many many women that have gone under the knife to get "perfected"  how even they are criticized for going under the knife.  Because not only do they want to look good for themselves.  They want to look good for society.  They want to get into the new "norm"  of what is accepted now. The many comments of how they look "different"  Being asked "Why did you do that to yourself?  You were perfect the way you were." But  they did not feel they were.  Gotta fit in.  Gotta attract the masses.  Gotta get the compliments.  Gotta be in the center of attention.  Selfies all day throughout the day.  Adulation, the sexy outfits, the sexy looks that are appeasing.  Do these women have low self-esteem?  Like the women that are so down on themselves that are promiscuous.  That sleep around for attention. To be liked, to be popular.  To be accepted by men because they do not have enough self confidence in themselves to just be them.  But really... who are they?  They don't even know.   

Low self-esteem comes from sooo many things.  Not receiving a lot of love as a child.  Being abused physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually.  Those who have been bullied, picked on.  Parents didn't have the money to buy clothes, so they sunk into themselves.  Trying to be the wallflower.  Those who were not good enough when they were younger so they become wild when they get older to get the attention they they did not received when they were young. From ugly duckling to swan now.  So let me be and do me!  Let me have the spotlight!  I need it to get love from people and it does not matter how I get it!  I just want it and need it!    

Let's be clear!  We all seek some form of attention from others.  Of course we do!  But how far will one go to get it?  To look like this barbie doll.  That you have had so many surgeries we have no idea of who you are anymore.  Because last week your nose was wide.  Now it's not.  Then last week you were B cup .  Now you have double D's.  You had flanks, now they are gone!  You had a tummy, no hips.  Whaaaaat???!!!! You look marvelous darling now!  Like I said,  there is nothing wrong with a little cosmetic alteration.  If it is truly needed.  But where are these young girls and women getting the money to put all of this plastic in their bodies?  How??? I mean these operations are not free?  As well as not cheap!!! Soooo Where is the money coming from?  I'm just saying.  Of course there are some underground facilities and people who are not licensed that can inject you with some silicone like substance so that YOU too may have this fabulous azz for all the men to lust after!  Isn't that grand! It's deep because some of these women are willing to die over having a bigger behind!  Like this is indeed a matter of life and death for them!  I guess.  So go ahead and do you for YOU if you must.  This is a do or die for you!  Again you need to have all this of wonderful attention because you NEED it.  Loving yourself by yourself and being all that you can be for you is never and will not ever be enough!  

No matter how you live your life it is indeed your life.  You are the captain of your own ship.  Your destiny and what you want for yourself is up to you.  Yes it is all up to you. 

I will say this, it is so sad that women/men have and are persuaded by society to act, talk, dress and look.  What is popular, trendy and what looks good in the eyes of others.  How we look to others.  Not really worrying about how we look to ourselves.  I mean deeply into ourselves.  Do you know yourself?  No, I mean do you really know yourself?  Not your favorite color, not your favorite food and what you do and don't like.  No I am speaking about are you open to all of your flaws.  Do people have to tell you what you are doing wrong?  Do you know how to analyze yourself?  No you  deeply on the inside?  When you act speak a certain way.  Are you able to say to yourself, "I need to correct this about me, myself." Can you not blame others for your personal choice and discretion's.  The valleys, trials and tribulations you have gone through.   Can you look at the man/woman in the mirror and judge yourself and work on improving your inner being and not your outer being with knives and going under a knife and getting fat sucked out and transferred.  Is it possible to just take care of your outer appearance?  To be the best you can be at all times?  Like I said.  I am all about self improvement.  The kind that starts from the inside first.  Because you can look good on  the outside all day everyday.  But will you be able to keep that man?  Will he find you attractive on the inside?  Do you have anything positive, wonderful, intelligent to say?  Is there any substance?  Or are you just something sexy and beautiful to look at? After so long a man will get tired of looking at you, having sex with you too!  Move on to something else.  Go ahead and take a look back at all of the beautiful curvaceous women that are sexy and some that have money.  They can tell you that their man still cheated!  Yes they did!  Ask the many women who have  have been in this situation.  They to thought their looks would keep a man!  Why wouldn't it?  They dressed i all the best finery, had the perfect body and looks! 

I of course had to get this one out.  Because I am far from a flawless and perfect body!  I am human and expect those around me to treat me humane. I may not be your flavor, and I am fine with that.  I mean really  fine with that!  My ego is no longer fragile.  However, respect those women who are not glammed up, your cup of tea.  Speak, smile, say something nice.  Even if it is not a compliment.  Social media has allowed so many people to hide behind a cell phone, tablet, PC and Mac to criticize other's being.  Do I see things that are unattractive?  Yes!  Do I see things and read things that I do not agree with?  Well of course!  Do I judge situations, people, make judgement calls, laugh, clown around?  Sure! But no one, and I absolutely mean no one should body shame anyone and make others feel bed because they do not fit into their class of beauty!  

Amen! 

Toy High